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About Nikkistaxx

Nikkistaxx started this conversation
Nov 1, 2009

Hello, my name is Nicole and I am a hardworking  single mom yet unemployed due to being layed off due to cutbacks. I am a mother of 4 beautiful children a daughter 12, twins (boy, girl) 7 and a girl 2 yrs.  My estranged (separated) husband gives no financial support to me for the children. I need help my and I don't know what to do my pride is now gone and I am unsure of our future, I'm educated and have worked in the medical sector for almost 8 years but nonetheless I find myself feeling hopeless and lost, scared for the welfare of my children.  Now the weather is changing and I can't even buy my children coats to fit and keep them warm, the savings is gone and I have applied to at least a hundred jobs some scanning the width of the country willing to move to any state that can offer us a better chance. I guess I'm here for help , suggestions, answers to my feelings of failure.  How do i save my children from poverty, how do I maintain my health I have kidney disease (fsgs) , how can see a doctor with no insurance.  What is a mother to do? the scariest things have entered my mind, i know without of fact i will do whatever it takes to care for my children and their needs even if i have to loose myself in the process. I will work for anypay , doing anything at this point. Help me figure out why and how ?

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Piffle
Nov 3, 2009

I cant believe that you have done so much with those babies...not a failure for sure!! Ya know... when my kids were young I felt at times that I was a horrible mother because I couldnt work as I am disabled.So I couldnt give them all they wanted or needed at times...But .the the thought hit me like an angell in my ear.My kids are a blessing to me...God chose me to have these two beautiful children....me...outta all the people on the planet he blessed me with their gift.why? I know darn well that they had to be special to him....his creation.He would want the best for them as I did.Yet he picked me to be the parent of them....so through all my faults all my screw ups they would turn out to be what He wanted...He chose me...to make them as they should be....with my faults counting in that equation...I was the perfect parent for these two wonderful souls...He has helped me make it through some of the roughest times when I wanted to give up and felt horrible and hopeless as a parent....things arent going for me all that well now but one thing remains...the wisper in the ear....My youngest is 18th in a class of 200.Both kids auditioned for a chior to sing at carnegy hall.Both have accomplished a lot...with tons of hard work and a trust that God most certainly knows what He is doing....even through the roughest of times...so dont be down on yourself...give yourself a wee bit of credit....you were picked by God himself to take care of those babies.

                          Love Piff

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dnamom
Nov 2, 2009

First of all, apply for unemployment.  this will give you some income...not much, but some.  Secondly, get in touch with the attorney general's office in your state.  The father of those beautiful children NEEDS TO PAY CHILD SUPPORT...PERIOD.  Then, go to the department of human services in your area...apply for food stamps and TANF.  They, too, will go after your ex once you apply for state aid.  I know in Texas if you opt for a one-time lump sum payment they will give you $1000.00.  Or, you can get it spread out.

After that, Sweetie, it sounds to me like you may be a little depressed and anxious.  I would not blame you if you were.  I worked in the mental health field for a while, and know some about these things.  Please DO NOT be ashamed about this...in your circumstances I know I would be and many others would be as well.  So, find the local mental health office in your area, and go for an evaulation.  They will give you free meds if you are unemployed.  You cannot take care of those kids and the rest of your situation if you do not take care of your self. 

As for your medical condition, ask the department of human services or the mental health office...they should be able to direct you somewhere in your area.

Blessings to you and yours!

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